As they grow our children’s fears and worries start to grow too. They might manifest through crying or simple belly aches but is never nice for them or for you. So why not try and make their day a bit better including them in your activities and giving them all the attention they require?
So slow down…and remind yourself what it is important…live a #slowlived life and have fun!
Let them help you with shopping and decide what they will have for dinner. Make a list together, go shopping and then let them help you cook it. Cutting vegetables(if they are old enough), making a salad dressing and even setting the table can give them a sense of being useful to you and that makes them happy! Do you remember how well you felt when your mum was letting helping her make those cookies? They will thrilled to spend time with you too!
Take them for a walk and stop every single time they want to. I know that probably your journey will be twice as long but once in a while you should make time for that. Stop and watch the trail of ants, admire the colourfulness of nature and answer all their questions. Do you remember how nature and the surroundings surprised you when you were a child?
My children love when I let them push the buttons – elevators, card machines, washing machines etc. – I don’t know but it simply gives them a sense of pleasure and control and why not let them? If they do it under your supervision they will be safe.
Spend the day playing – board games, plasticine, play doh, origami, crafting, bubbles, puddles, indoor or outdoor again they will be thrilled to spend the whole day playing with you! Forget about the mess, forget about tidying up as when they will grow they will remember you playing with them not how clean the house was.
Naping can be another activity you could do together. Sometimes when kids are feeling low the last thing they need is to be sent to their room and be by themselves. Even if it’s only for sleeping. So take the afternoon off and nap with them. You will give them a sense of security
Read to them. One, two or how many books they satisfy them. They like the sound of your voice this is why they like when you read them stories. I know that sometimes they might just not want to go to sleep but they will mostly just like to spend just some more time with you. Soon the day when they will ban you out of their room will come and believe me you will miss the days when they were asking for “one more story”.
Talk to them. Be there for them no matter what. Let them tell you about their worries and their upsets. And when they are happy. It is important to let them know that you are there for them no matter what. Teach them that feelings are ok and they should always talk to you about them.
I am sure there a lot more things you could do to transform your child day from a sad one to a happy one and they definitely include your presence. So please do share with us what you do with your children.